Wednesday, June 30, 2010

Creating your own life story..

Sometimes life gets hard.
Sad.
Tiring.
Frustrating.
Depressed.

Perspective is key.

All of us need to really stop and see how we are looking at life. If something is bothering you, it is because you are looking at it in a way to allow it to bother you. You have
your own story and everything that happens, you interpret to fit "your story." You are the author to your own story.

For example, you tend to be down on yourself, feeling worthless and not deserving. You had multiple experiences that have caused you to think this way, possibly through peoples words or actions. (Now I am going to get kinda mathmatical but bare with me. It is the only way to help you see it)

People's words and actions (X)
X-Your mom tells you to give away your barbie to the other little girl because she is crying.

Your story(Y)
Y-You are worthless and don't deserve the barbie.

X and Y don't exactly match up. You hear X and transform it into Y.
YOU create what you think it means. Most of the time people didn't imply it to mean the way you took it. You just have your own story of feeling worthless and undeserving so X falls right into Y. YOU caused it to mean that way. YOU changed the meaning to make it fit into Y. Most of the time people aren't looking at you and saying word for word, "You are worthless and deserve nothing!" You just tranformed it into what you thought they meant because it is easier to find evidence to go along with the way you are feeling (Y). Therefore, you have your own story.

We all interpret things and allow little things to get to us. We are human, its natural!! Yet, now is the time to change all of that. Instead of hearing X and letting Y take over, wipe that clean. Change your view. Nothing is wrong with you because you are feeling the way you do. Just simply stop and recognize what you are doing and change your view point. It doesn't mean you have to change who you are and rid yourself of the past. The past is the past and there is no changing it. Just stop now and leave that past behind. Stop carrying that extra baggage with you. Simply
change your view. Free yourself of that hurt that you are creating from "your own story." Good will come if you simply allow it to.

A changed perspective is the answer to life. It will rid yourself of things you have held onto from years previous. Life is all in how we look at it. Perspective is
EVERYTHING.

I feel like a new woman. I am happy. I want such good in life and love that I can actually finally see it due to my perspective. Changing my view has never felt so good.

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Just for entertainment watch this :)

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And this.

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My heart is smiling.
Life is good. Oh so good.

Ps- I am headed to Cali for a girls trip for the 4th. It's gunna be awesome, I cant wait!! I have been in desperate need of a beach, laying out, and bike riding. I will be driving us to Newport..this could be bad. Wish me luck!

Pps--I need your help. I wanna win a free photo session with Trevor Dayley. His photography is amazing!! Click HERE and leave a comment or just click you like it. But you must first "like" Trevors page. It will then allow you to comment on my picture! Please please please help me out!! The person with the most comments/likes wins! Yipee!!

Happy 4th of July everyone!
xoxo

7 comments:

  1. oh chase! haha. i've never seen that side of him!

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  2. you said it! I am trying to change my perspective and its hard to do especially in a marriage. You are so wise beyond your years! I love that video of chase I really miss him! Good thing he isn't quitting his day job. I love my Avrey girl! She is too stinkin cute!! I love that video you are so cute and such a great auntie!! I love you to the sky and back! Please take me to cali with you!!! PLEASE!!

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  3. I am so bad at this. I constantly take things the wrong way and am always worried about someone being offended my me or me doing or saying something wrong. thanks for the post!

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  4. thanks lex for your inspirong words, it made me do a lot of reflection. and I commented for you on the photography site, those pictures really are precious. have fun in newport, wish you could come see me! but we will be there soon,19 days!!!

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  5. Do you know how much I love you? You are the best! You really are amazing!

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  6. I love this!! It's so true and you put it beautifully. Thank you so much :)

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  7. lex, you are so amazing!! this is perfect. there's alot of people that need to read this. love you girl!!

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